Why Struggle?

I recently read the following article Orlando Swinger Party Upsets Soccer Parents online and it immediately got me thinking about the Puritant/Victorian society we still live in.

It was the following quote I want to comment on:
"We're not prudes by any means," said Rob Young of Greenville, S.C., who said his two daughters, Leah, 13 and Lauren, 11, asked questions he struggled to answer. "

Why did he have to struggle? And against what?
One of the worst things we do to our youth is to help keep the mystery of sex intact. When things like sex are demystified then the fears are dissipated and ignorance is replaced with facts. Even better that knowledge is learned without having to have unsafe, promiscuous sex.

Another thing is the wonderful opportunity to let your children that not everyone in the world has the same values or beliefs as your family perhaps has. That those sexual preferences, for example, may not be ours, but they have the right to them and they are only different, not bad or wrong.

I just had to rant.
:::sigh:::
I feel so much better now.

And The Answer Is

CJ brought home this nice little wooden tool from the store where he worked (he actually quit yesterday to save his sanity) before the holidays.
After a lot of grinning and innuendo he made me guess what it was.
I couldn't figure it out.
Actually it's from India and is used for relaxation by rolling it between the palms of the hands.
I started doing it and walked around without even thinking about it. I think it really works.
We are still kind of curious of other things it could be rolled over for 'relaxation.
CJ says that our pal The Venting Housewife came the closest and is the winner.
Cheers to Beth !

Below are some pictures of the relaxation stick in use...

It's A Special Day

Let's not forget:

H A P P Y

B I R T H D A Y

C J !!

I love you

and btw everyone, I'll post the answer to the tool question when I get home from work this evening....

Deb's First Quiz

Below is a picture of a special little something that CJ brought home for me.
Can you guess what it is and/or what it's used for?
I'll give it 24 hours, then I'll post the answer.
Since I'm just a poor blogger all I can offer the winner is my undying admiration...lol

A Christmas Present

CJ really got me too much this Christmas. I got everything from some of my favorite perfume to a book I asked for (in my family it just isn't a holiday without giving or getting a book) to a train set (yes, another thing about me...I'm an avid model railroader, as is CJ).

But below is one of the best presents I wanted to share with you.
I think it will go in the bedroom, I'll put up a pic of it once it's hung.


I also created a button from the shot and I figure it will come in handy somewhere down the line in my posts, etc.

A Reaffirmation For The New Year

With the beginning of the New Year I would like to reaffirm something I told CJ back in July of 2004. It was at the height of our reconciliation and means no less now that we have had our first year living together since 1986.



Until my ashes are scattered in San Francisco Bay to be reborn, join your spirit again, and love you anew. I want you to know that:
I will nurture your health I will encourage you on your path I will keep you young I will remind you who you are and who we are.
In sadness, I will help you remember
In happiness, I'll be there to make memories with you
When you need someone to encourage you, I want it to be me.
When you need a helping hand, I want it to be mine.
When you long for someone to smile at, turn to me.
When you have something to share, share it with me.

We have already been through a lot together, I believe the universe has been preparing us for this moment and for what the future will bring us, together.

I will keep the good memories alive and let the bad ones die.
I will not let the sun go down on our anger.
I will treat each morning as a new day to love the gift I've been given...you.
I will look forward to more hopes and dreams and accomplishing them with the greater
force of 'us'.

I will not forsake you, I will keep the fire burning and will always hold your spark dear.

This is the pledge I make before the universe.
Today
Tomorrow
Forever

Catch Up - #1

It almost seems silly to be writing catch up post so early in the year, but because of events beyond my control that's what I have to do.
I had the week between Christmas and New Year's off, but was plagued with all sorts of problems, both physical and emotional.
I'm just on a run of bad luck and I asked all my loved ones to bare with me. Things in life ebb and flow, and I most assuredly will be on the upswing again. Because of all these problems, not to mention the stress of the holidays my sex life has been at nil lately. One reason is that I saw a new doctor for pain in my back. He prescribed muscle relaxents and Celebrex without asking me some important questions like 'Are you allergic to sulfa?' I am and therefore shouldn't take Celebrex. I broke out in a horrible rash all over. I was prescribed steroids, which now after 5 days are making me sick to my stomach. I haven't been able to shave anywhere because of the rash. It doesn't make you feel very sexy or attractive.

I want to wish everyone a happy, prosperous, and love filled New Year. Thank you again to all the bloggers out there that sent out personal regards to CJ and I.
I'm looking forward to my first full year in blogland and can't even imagine what the year will bring, but I say 'Bring it on!'

Onto my next post.....